This is often the first question I’m asked when I meet women and the discussion turns into what I do for a living. After I explain it, I’m always met with a “Wow, that’s pretty cool” ” Is that like a Doula?” or ” Where were you when I was having my kids.” I love talking to people about what I do and how I can help them or someone they know have a phenomenal birth experience. Well, to answer the questions we birth consultants are a “jack of all trades” when it comes to birth. We come to your rescue about any and every question you may have that’s pre/post pregnancy related and beyond. Birth consultants work with an expectant woman or couple from pre-conception through post-partum recovery. Although we are NOT your primary caregiver, we ARE your advocate, support person, and friend. We will make sure your are not bullied by the medical world into making decisions you are not sure about. I truly believe a mother always knows, others make her second guess.
The before and after of the birth experience can be a scary road for some. It’s my job to make sure the fear of conceiving and giving birth becomes non-existent. Many couples have questions about the financial aspect of having a baby; this is another area I cover with clients. From arranging short and long term disability to reviewing hospital discharge bills and finding financial support for families the goal is to make sure your family is equipped to make informed decisions while having the birth experience you want.
During the last year I’ve worked with many beautiful mothers whom are overwhelmed with the process of conceiving or not conceiving when they would like. Having had the same experience, we often have the mind set that we are on our own time and babies will come when WE want them to. In essence, spiritually, this is possible however, everything must be in sync. Mama’s vibrations must be elevated so the body can do its work. When we offer resistance we are saying to the universe the very thing we are asking for is not what we want. Being open and receptive allows for many transformations to start to take place, when we let go we allow the season that’s supposed to take place in our lives manifest. Be open, Be True, Be You.
As national breastfeeding month comes to a close, let’s focus on being connected and helping each other. Whether we nourish our children from the breast or bottle we all deserve to be supported and have a space we can come to and refuel our souls. Motherhood alone is enough to take calmness out of each day but remember we are our children’s source and with that comes a unique energy that needs to be rejuvenated. I urge and challenge you to talk to one another, look behind what you see; it can simply be a “hello” or “how are things going?” that can get a conversation going. For me, I meet many moms in the aisles of Target and it’s just a matter of time before we are talking birth! If you have questions, or just plain don’t know what to do about breastfeeding, being a mom, being a first time mom, sex after pregnancy, postpartum body or whatever your individual issue is reach out, send an email, google a support group or email us here at Well Done Babies and we will help, if we can’t you best believe we will find someone who can. You don’t have to walk this beautiful journey of motherhood alone…..Be Open and Receive!
Now that’s something to think about! I knew right away when I was pregnant with my first child that I would have a waterbirth. It just seemed like it would be so calm and tranquil, and what better environment to bring a baby into. It was the best experience of my life, everything went exactly how we wanted, the water made labor more manageable and squatting was the best position for me as it allowed gravity to do its thing.
I really encourage you to think about what kind of birth you would like, I’ve worked with people who dreamed of having their babies outdoors in nature but were afraid to do so because of what the “naysayers” said. Listen to your inner goddess, she know’s exactly what to do and don’t forget to ask baby as well, believe it or not they speak to us a lot in the womb.
Many first time moms have this exact question, I know I did!!. I thought it was as simple as going to my OB/GYN and he would lead the way, so that’s what happened, until I got to my 3rd ultrasound before I even got to 20 weeks. I knew something was very wrong with this process, this was not the birth I wanted to have so I changed the game. I went home, meditated and opened my eyes with the vision of how I wanted my birth to be, and it happened in water, lights low, soft music, no meds (nope, not even a Tylenol) at close to 43 weeks. If you’re looking for the path to your unique birth experience you’ve come to the right place. No matter how crazy it may sound, no matter what the media says, the doctor says or your friends tell you, you can truly have the birth experience you want. Don’t believe me, just give me a call!